Very odd behaviour of my fiancee?

Question

My fiancee is displayning a very odd behaviour. I love her a lot but I just dont know how to deal with it. At one moment she is absolutely fine and the very next minut e she has extremly agitated behaviour. During her moments of anger she wants me to pack up and leave an during her goood moments she gives me just the opposite message. Last time during her anger she got physically violent towards me. I want to really work out my relationship with her. Can some one tll me what is this type of behaviour? Just as a background, I did boother her by some lies and however for the past few months, I swore not to lie again and kept my end of the bargain and am doing that.

Answer 1

She may still be struggling with the fact you lied to her, and is trying to work through it. If you love her stick with it. Out of curiosity though is she your fiancee or wife!

Answer 2

What did you lie about? Some lies are just too hurtful and can't be easily forgotten. She might still be healing. When someone lies, promises are not well trusted. Try showing her that you can be honest. Or she could be mentally ill and emotionally damaged from past experiences. Hopefully not the last.

Answer 3

It is impossible to diagnose this behavior on such little information. She could be bipolar, although you would usually see this over longer periods of time, not from one minute to the next. She could need to test you to see how far she can push you without you leaving her.





There are many other things that could be involved, but the one thing I would say for sure is - DON'T GET MARRIED WITHOUT PREMARITAL COUNSELING. It may work out fine, but you may also save yourself and any possible children years of heartache.

Answer 4

MOVE!!!! im sure she has lied about some things.. Just think do you want to be married to women that cant forgive or forget the past if she cant forgive or forget now what makes you think its going to get any better??

Answer 5

She may be bipolar (manic-depressive).



She may also be still seething over your lying to her.



Personally, I'd pack up and move on, and not take her back if she found me again.



Plenty more where she came from, but this "relationship" may be damaged beyond repair.