What's the deal with this girl?? Sometimes, I don't understand women..!!?! Ladies, please help me on this one.?

Question

Ok, I met this girl on a dating website. She actually found me and wrote me saying that if i was interested i should write her back. So, I write her this heart-melting, mind-blowing message, which is my masterpiece(you'll understand why in a bit), using stuff on her profile(which, by the way, everyone dating online should do) and she gave me her number straight up!! Who does that?

Anyway, we texted each other for now about 3 weeks and she is a sweetheart, we give each other sweet nickname every time we text and things are going pretty good so far. I make her laugh on text and everything. The only thing that I rapidly noticed was that she doesn't always reply to my messages, which irritates because i don't know if there's something wrong, even though i know she might be busy at times, but on the other end, it's exactly what I want her to tell me. And another thing is, Besides the first few days of texting, she never asked me a question, even any question would do, i'm always the one coming up with something because i want to know her. But on her side, there are no questions.

So what I did at first was to ask her if there was anything wrong and she replied that she was fine. So, i go ahead and say what's on my mind, which is that i just didn't feel like she was not getting to know me and she also it didn't seem like she was not that much into me.I also stated that she was not replying sometimes and gave her some example of what i was talking about. Turns out that it came up to her as big blow saying that she felt like I was putting her down and she didn't understand what i was taking about. I gave her some more specific examples and explained to her that when one person in a dialogue doesn't not ask questions to the other, it would make anyone feel, even her, that this person is not interested in you(tell me if i'm wrong people but to me it's common sense). I also was a gentleman and apologize, even though, she might have taken it the wrong way or my word choice was bad. She, nevertheless, replied that she was interested in me and wanted to hang out and get to know me... So i was happy, but to this day remain confused, because i said and if she has ANY question, to simply ask me...and would show me that she has an interest in me, because i need to know that. She took that one pretty bad too and again explain she interested n all, so again i apologized and say alright whatever you say, lets move on.

At first i thought she was not asking question because she was waiting for me to ask her out so she could get know me in person or whatever, but it doesn't seem to be it. And i haven't ask her out yet because i'm sort of busy and don't that much cash, not to say nada lol. I know she would love to get out so i'm actively looking for cheap or no money date ideas...like take a walk in a park/national park and just talk, look at animals and stuff.

One last thing, she also leave far from me. Far enough to spend quite a buck on transport but close enough to make it work out(her Charlottesville, VA/Me silver spring, MD but i could say DC).
I don't drive but she does and I'm 19 and she's 18, just graduated.
So, tell me what do you think, i hope it was not too long to read. THANKS IN ADVANCE

Answer 1

Hey, nice little story you got going on there, read the whole thing, took me a little less than 10 minutes.



Okay, 1. Sounds like she has had a childhood where people were always expecting too much or not enough and always gave her a hard time about it. So be careful on touching on subjects where she may think that you think less of her or not enough etc. etc.



2. Women like to know your interested, not obsessed... If you talk to her too much and ask her too many questions, you may creep her out or come off as obsessed over her, which is a little intimidating for a lot of women.



3. If you think that she should get to know you better, and she doesn't seem to be asking the questions, maybe she is socially awkward with people she really likes, or is in to. This is very common for a lot of women, that they become shy or afraid that if they ask or talk to much that you won't like them. My suggestion for you is, offer information about yourself, for a deeper example.

John: "What's your favorite color Lisa?"

Lisa: "Blue."

John: "I love blue.. My favorite color is green. Your colours wrap around mine in the world."

Blah blah, etc. etc.



4. I love Charlottesville, Im originally from there. One great thing about VA is GREYHOUND the busses I mean.. For getting around... Of course, a ticket to MD may cost you a pretty penny. It the cheapest way of travel.



5. Considering on what to do on a dime, think of a romatic camping trip. There are a lot of nice parks in VA, get a tent or two, plan some camping meals, then you have a place to stay while your visiting and you can make it a great couples experience, get to know each other more, hiking, biking, sight seeing, etc. etc. The whole package deal..



Anyways, just some ideas. Good luck with her... :)

Answer 2

YOu cannot get mad over some thing like that. She's being sincere with you, you must believe comfortable. If she don't have instructed then you she might had been gambling you and you then might have got extra disappointed. Give her a while and help her. You must understand how it feels love to be relocating on from a dating. Just due to the fact that you got here alongside and had a well time together with her does no longer always imply that she was once gonna overlook her boyfriend instantlly. Also, if you were not looking to take her as a female friend, then permit her realize. Maybe she acquired the improper signs out of your movements

Answer 3

Honestly - I wouldn't pursue this. She doesn't sound interested in you. It sounds like she just didn't want to hurt your feelings. Find a girl who lives closer to you who you can meet in person. Sorry.



Also - don't write a "heart-melting" message to a woman you hardly know. That makes you seem needy. Just play it cool for a while and get to know her before jumping in.

Answer 4

1. maybe she doesnt like txting

2. maybe your boring, you sound needy

3. quit using loser dating websites