Should I break up with him? 15 years old?

Question

'm 15 and I've been in a 4 month relationship with my 16 year old boyfriend.
We both live kind of far apart from each other so don't get to meet up that much but we're very close and I know it might sound stupid but in love. He's my very first proper boyfriend and was my first kiss too. I can tell him anything and I don't know what I'd do without him, I genuinely see myself being with him for a long time and even marrying him, which I know sounds naive and immature and I know I might change my mind about this but I feel that strongly.

However, we've been through a lot. About 1 month into the relationship, he was at a party and got really drunk and kissed another girl. He told me straight away and said he was so sorry and everything and even though I was extremely upset I decided to forgive him. He stopped drinking after that and has been sober since then.

Then about 2 months ago he was at my house and as he said I could go through his phone whenever i wanted, I went to look at his pictures, just to see what ones he had and not suspicious or anything. Then I found screenshots of me in my underwear when I had gone on webcam with him at the beginning of our relationship, and also a webcam screenshot of another girl. I was really shocked at this and didn't say anything until after he'd left. I confronted him and he told me he didn't even know why he did it and was immature then and the other girl he didn't even know why he still had that picture cause it was from ages ago etc. I felt betrayed at this as I was unsure and nervous about going on webcam like that and told him he wasn't allowed to take pictures and yet he lied to me. Anyway, eventually i forgave him for that too. He loves me so much though and has cried about the things he's done and when I nearly broke up with them. I lost a lot of trust in him over both these things but I'm gradually building it back up, I don't want to seem like an idiot and keep putting myself through this but I really do love him and care for him.

But nowadays we fall out practically everyday. He never called me unless I asked him to and this got me upset, thinking he didn't care but we sorted this out and he said he would call me everyday unless he was studying or something, I said I would no longer call and it was up to him because I felt kind of used and taken advantage of. Then tonight he didn't bother calling and I asked him why and he said sorry he was stoned (he occasionally smokes weed) and I got p*ssed at him, as I feel he's putting weed before me. Some days I just feel like I can't be bothered and I turn my phone off and ignore him and just think that I'm going to break up with him because we fall out so much now. We argue and he gets annoyed at me for nothing, then apologises so I end up feeling better. I just kind of feel like I'm not being fair on myself and I deserve better. He really does care for me and love me though and helps me with my problems and listens, but he just keeps hurting me.

Please give me advice as I really don't know what to do, I can't imagine being without him and it scares me but I don't want to be an idiot either. Thank you

Answer 1

Well first Lil Mama, Its going to always be your option to do what you think that's best but the way it seems is that he's "Living his life for him" and having fun while it last. Your young and too young to be getting treated like you are, I know a 30 year old woman that's going through the things you are going through. If I was in your shoes right now what I would do is do what he's doing "Live my life". Do you, Have fun while your young.... What if you get pregnant by him? What would you do? Have a baby by someone that doesn't even care about your feelings. Then how do you think he's going to act, I can tell you now it wont get any better! This is just the beginning. Don't get stuck in a relationship that's not working for you because apparently your not happy, If you were you wouldn't be questioning it.



There's someone out there for you that will make you feel so secure and appreciated. You are a very pretty lil lady! You have a lot of time to explore and make lots of friends.... I know you really like this guy and you couldn't even imagine seeing yourself without him, but if you have to ask him to call you, it's something very wrong with that, that's just so wrong! You say that he really love you, but sometimes love isn't enough sweetheart.



The first thing I probably would do is treat him the way he treats me, so he will know how it feels, then get a friend, another guy someone I can talk to and let out my feelings to. (Sometimes you need a guys perspective about certain situations.) Then I would sit down and have a long talk with him and let him know how serious that conversation is and let him know that our relationship is in jeopardy.



After that if he still want to act stupid, you either take some time off with him or just leave him alone, because you can't keep giving your all if he's not giving anything. Like I said before you are a very pretty young lady, you should not be stressed over a guy you call your boyfriend....He needs to be treating you like the Queen you are!!! ;)

Answer 2

tell him you need a break. I know alot of people are about to see this qeustion and be like...wow your too young for a relationship if yuor asking qeustions on yahoo and ****....dont listen. Somtimes getting advice from people you dont know speaks to you the most. I would tell him straight out that the way he has been acting feels like its making you sick. I know its gonna hurt to break up. Its the worst feeling in the would. You will feel sick for the next couple days, deprresed, and you wont want to eat. It sucks ***. The best thing to do is get your mom and just let everything out. Yell,cry,scream,fuss,hit pillows,talk trash...whatever. no matter how much you dont want to believe it..shes the only one that has been through the same thing AND is always on your side. Dont go telling other people because truth is....nobody is gonna be a true friend and not tell him. Tell the guy he has broken your heart but DO NOT beg for him back.This will make him feel like he can do whatever he wants and then come straight back to you and your gonna love him no matter what. Make him learn how to treat a girl. Let him know the stupid games guys play HURT! HOPE THIS HELPS!:) GOODLUCK!

Answer 3

It doesn't sound like your happy. I am sorry to tell you this but i think its time to let him go because he isn't being a good boyfriend. He's hurting you and if your boyfriend love/like you he wouldn't do this too you. Also, with those pictures it sounds like he's being unfaithful so let him go. Besides if your questioning the relationship then you really don't wanna be with him. And can you really see yourself marry a jerk like that. Also darling your young there is too much to do in the many years you got. with all my love and luck to you.

Answer 4

The relationship is not going to last, your BF has a drink and drugs problem and he is only 16. What will he be like in 10 years time, a total pi55 head junkie? Get out while you can is my advice, that guy is a loser big time.

Answer 5

break up with him i would say my last boyfriend i kept forgiving he was seeing another girl behind my back and i forgave him for it we were okay until he did it again he was my first proper boyfriend too and my first kiss he broke my heart i would break up with him and not make the same mistake as me. plus u dont want to be getting mixed up with a weed smoker cos u dont know what else he might end up taking. hope this helped xx

Answer 6

he obviously doesnt appreciate u, if he did luv u he wud have deleted the pick, and u notice he only cries and apologies after he r4ealises ull find out! drop him, and im 15 2 so if u wanna talk tex 912-690-5439! in not jus sayin this 4 u to break p with him, others r sain it to! dump him! he hasnt talked to u in a while eithr, yeah he's cheating on u, and u keep going back to him! leave him!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

he's a teenage boy, they get bored so fu*kin easy trust me. im the same age as you+i've had a few boyfriends+i think im in 'love'. how do we know what love is? it could be stronger then what your feeling for your current boyfriend.



talk to him about it. ask him where your going with the relationship. you seem to be a strong couple that can talk about anything.



hope this helped, <3

Answer 8

Hun I know it's hard, but I've been through exactly what you're going through, not calling you means he's ready to move on, and you're going to get through it I know you are



And btw what an *** for kissing another girl and having pictures of another girl on his phone, forget about him,

Answer 9

Drop that zero and find yourself a hero.

Answer 10

Do you have any clue what he did to your and that girls picture! Gross, leave his sorry *** because you can do better!

Answer 11

you should