I have a strange problem with my wife?

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I have a strange problem with my wife?
Before i explain my problem, We have an arranged marriage and we are blessed with 2 Children, my relationship with my wife has been on a downhill road , on a regular basis but we are still married for 13 years. My wife has little slight temperament and gets puts off easily, she likes stay at and has very few friends. She usually is close only to her mother and 2 sisters. As usuall we had an argument last year on one of the issues and usually she does not keep quite she takes the arguments to higher level by screeming and sometimes throwing things around. On one such occasion i pushed her as i could not stand the comfort at which she was blaming me and at that time she was 3 moths pregnant. It was a very small push no one got hurt or anything. I apologized and we were ok. Infact during her pregnancy i helped her a lot with the house works and everything from about bringing food and taking care of the children. she was very happy until the delivery. Once the delivery was done she has changed slightly, I was expecting that after the delivery we would be able to sleep together once again. But it is 1.5 years now that we haven’t slept together. i tried to ask her the reasons, she says she doesn’t like me and because i pushed her she is upset and doesn’t want to sleep with me and she has asked god to pardon her.
I am having a traumatic effect on my life but somehow I manage to keep things in control both in office and at home, i behave with everyone as if nothing has happened but this issue keeps eating me up internally.
I need advice from our women sisters... where do I stand.. and what should i do ??

Answer 1

I believe this could be Post Natal Depression!

Answer 2

I agree with Kaylaxx. Anyhow if you willing to work things out with her they I think you should both have a serious talk and if needed you both should see a counselor. The push is not a big deal (if you are honest about it that it is only a small push). Anyhow it happened over 1.5 years ago so if she really had a problem with it she could have told you about it a long time ago.



Do you both go out on dates? do you try to make things romantic for her? take a vacation... go on a second honeymoon. Try to get to know eachother from the beginning. Make a new start for both of you. But first talk to her and see what's on her mind.



Good luck

Answer 3

shes not in love with you any more

the pushing is not a problem to her, but she is using that against you. she using it to get out of making love with you. she is also very angry with something and you are the close one to pick on. she sounds like she is going through depression from something



also if you have no friends you can become very depressed from being in the house alot and not getting out

Answer 4

Sounds like she really dislikes you and may be suffering from Post Partum Depression. I suggest you take her to a Doctor and you need to stay away from her.

Answer 5

Thats what it sounds like to me too. Post dep.

Tell her you love her, and tell her you dont want to leave her but this is reallly bothering you...Sit her down and tell her how you feel...and what has changed...Tell her the things you still love about her and what you miss.

Answer 6

after delivery these things happen you have to handle very carefully.this is depression.take her to the docter. you be calm.handle her carefully.all the best to you.will pray for you.