please help, i really need information and advice?

Question

soo i have tried so many times to c*m, except not for long periods of time
and my boyfriend has tried, but never succeeded

so tonight i decided to try and spend time with it
i ended up using a dildo type thing and useing my fingers on the clit*rus
and it felt reallly good for about 5 minutes, then i stopped cus i felt discouraged
but my boyfriend told me to keep going
so i continued for about 3 more minutes and i got this feeling like i really had to pee, but a little different (i dont know if that is wierd? :/)
and then the strong good feeling went away
and when i pulled the dildo out, there was white substance on it, kinda of alot

but what i dont understand is the urination feeling?
and also why the good feeling went away before i came?
did i actually c*m and orgas*?

this may be too much information, and i might sound dumb
but i have never came before

any advice or information would help alot.
thank you.

Answer 1

Most women (generally in upwards of 80-85%) cannot climax from penetration alone, whether penile or manual (fingering), but require manual stimulation of the clitoris. This does not mean that anything is wrong with you, simply that you have more exposed nerve endings in the clitoral region than anywhere else (like pretty much everyone). Only a select few (and I want to know this selection process, because it's unfair, I tell ya'!) are able to climax through penetration.



Not only this, but you're YOUNG! Most women don't actually have the ability to orgasm until they're in their mid-20's... and if friends have been saying they get them all the time or have for years - they're faking it to make their guys feel better about themselves and help them get off faster! While it may feel good, it's probably NOT an orgasm at your age as your body isn't physically mature enough to produce one.



If it's not an issue that you've possibly had an orgasm (you would DEFINITELY know!) previously, and it's that you're not having an orgasm through penetration, it's not a problem with you nor his technique, simply that your climax is clitoral. Down the road, if you are relaxed enough, you may be able to work on a penetrative G-Spot orgasm, however, that generally will not happen with penile penetration, either, as it takes a lot of stimulation, and usually either vibration or a hard-textured toy in order to stimulate the area enough for that type of climax. Once you're comfortable enough that you're not so focused on giving yourself a definative climax, you will be able to find all kinds of fun ways to get off, perhaps with manual stimulation, or even with the assistance of toys later on.



The white stuff is simply your body's secretions. It's just your body's way of preparing for intercourse by lubricating your vaginal walls. Your secretions can be anything from clear and watery to white and gooey (like glue) or even frothy (like foam on a cappuccino). Totally normal with or without climax, I promise.

Answer 2

Well im a guy and when i *** i get that same "having to pee" feeling. its probably the same as a girl. just dont hold it back, let it go like if your gonna pee.

Answer 3

Dont stop when you fell like your about to pee. Take the chance. sex is dirty. You can clean it up. Most likely your not gonna pee your about to ***(: